Changing Your Cognitive Scripts
The hardest thing to change really is your own mind. We all have these lovely patterns; cognitive scripts which really are difficult to challenge. The amount of energy necessary is greater than what you need to lift a very heavy object.
Still, we know it is possible. But each morning, we get our script out and we start running our lines, assuming that all of the other actors in our life will keep to the same script.
It's no wonder we don’t like it when someone around us changes too much. When others change it throws our script off, and what we think we know and should do no longer works. So instead of changing and growing also, we keep that person in the same mental box where we put our own self.
The only constant is change and life requires it; which is why doing the same behavior without a consequence will eventually bring one.
We all read about the accidents that happen when someone is texting and driving. Each of those drivers had texted while driving before. Every time; nothing happened, so the script allowed them to continue. It only takes one time for one variable to change before the "accident" happens.
The best way to prepare for change is ---wait for it--- is to change.
Small deliberate changes in a daily stagnant life will bring huge positive results.
Drive a different way to and from work, or change up an exercise routine. Take a book or flowers to someone in a nursing home. Read to a child; volunteer to teach an adult. Take a moment to meditate before you make a call, send an email or do anything that requires communication and understanding.
Look for ways to do new things that will spark your brain; learn a new language and practice it.
Don’t wait for your life to change you; you change your life.
Be you, be well, be flipping the script. (Yes, I meant that.)
Bertice Berry, PhD.