Are You Disappointed Because Your Life Exceeded Your Dreams?
Last week, I received a wonderful package. Inside, was a gift I hadn’t expected and a lesson I didn’t know I needed.
My sister Annette Lee had sent a present to my daughter and me. Annette always takes special care in wrapping her presents so even the act of opening them gives you a great deal of joy.
Annette had heard her husband, my brother, Jerry say that I loved to reuse the pretty boxes they always send presents in, so she’d sent a few of them as well.
What gave my daughter the greatest delight were the two boxes that said “chocolate truffles” on the outside. Annette had even attached a note; “Mmmmmm, good.”
Fatima was even happier when I gave her my box of chocolates and told her she could have mine too.
When she opened them though, the boxes did not hold chocolates; instead Annette had sent us both two beautiful pairs of earrings.
“These are not truffles;” my 21 year old said pouting. “It’s just really nice earrings.”
Her tone was full of dismay and disappointment. I laughed and squealed with delight at the joke Annette had shared. I did not want chocolate, but I always love a good pair of earrings.
At first, Fatima was upset; she had set herself up for truffles and was somewhat disappointed by her beautiful present.
Then she put on a pair and found a mirror. She smiled at herself and has been wearing the earrings each day since then.
As with most new events in my life, I began to wonder about the meaning of this joyous trick.
How often do we get something that was better than we expected, but feel like we were duped, let down or somehow short changed?
Did you get a better love, life, job, home or family and then realize that “better” requires better maintenance and care?
Did you decide that this life was too good to be true; too much to handle and not what you really wanted?
Before you open your box of chocolates and find that you have struck gold, be prepared to be happy, because God, love and life can go beyond your wildest dreams.
Be you, be well, be expecting better
Bertice Berry, PhD.