You Can’t Have The Love You Want
Until You Love the One You’re With
Okay boys and girls, for the record, I’m not advocating that you stay in the relationship you are in while you keep looking for the love you want.
Today’s lesson and every lesson this year, centers on loving yourself first.
You can’t give what you do not possess. If you do not truly love yourself—and I mean everything about you—then you can’t fully express love for another.
I’m sure you have had plenty of relationships without this love for self, but think hard and long about this next question before you answer it: why did those relationships end?
I know, it takes two to Tango and that the other party had something to do with it, but ultimately, you picked them and we choose based on the information we have and the intuition we ignore.
I may be preaching to the choir, but I am also a member. When we learn to love and adore our own being, we become much more attractive to others.
But here’s the rub, you will also become more attractive to those who have a difficult time loving themselves. In you, they will see the self-love they desire.
I have friends who often say, “You attract to you what you need to work out.” This is true, but then there is the law of probability; there are probably more people who have not learned to love themselves then there are who do; chances are, you will run into some of them.
Everyone is attracted to light; even the darkest soul desires the light. So if you are striving to shine more brightly, expect to be attractive to those who live in darkness.
But also know this, light attracts light and when you work on yourself to become who you need to be for you, you will have all that your soul desires.
That’s it---proof that you can talk about the water even when you live in the desert.
Be you, be well, be love.
Bertice Berry, PhD.