Never Without With Friends
Yesterday, I
heard from my longtime friend, Pat who has moved to Ireland from the U.S. She
told me that she was back in the States to tie up some loose ends and that for
three weeks she’d be staying with friends and family.
An hour
later, my sister Chris told me that when she mentioned that she was going to
Delaware for a short holiday, friends and family were fighting over who she
would stay with, because everyone wanted her at their house.
I was
reminded of something another friend told me years ago, “When you have good friends, you can never be homeless.”
I know this
to be true; still, we spend free time building up and maintaining our physical
home, but often forget to build our relationships.
One of the best ways to assure
happiness in this life is to build and develop good relationships. Research
shows that people who have strong bonds with their friends and community tend
to live longer, healthier lives.
I have
strong ties with friends that I have had since kindergarten and equally strong
bonds with some that I met two months ago.
When I lived
in California, most of the folks I knew would drive home from work, into their
garages and then from there, walk directly into their homes, never waving or
speaking to anyone.
My
sister/manager Jeanine and I started a prayer group which was really an eating
club, and before long, my entire neighborhood was showing up.
Each
Saturday, we’d get together to share the trials and joys of our lives and eat.
We’d find ways to help the situation and then my mom said the same short prayer
she had been saying for years:
“Devine Love, always has and always
will supply our every need. So let nothing hinder, nor delay the Divine plane
that the Creator has for your life today, we are moving on and on and on.”
After she
said her prayer, everyone would talk and then eat some more and then hours
later we’d part and say goodnight.
I live my
life in the hopes that when I am gone, my friends will remember me by taking
care of each other.
Care for your friends as
if they are silver and gold, because they are.
Be you, be well, be a
good friend.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
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