Monday, October 8, 2012

Day 282; What Others Think of You

What Others Think of You

I’ve read almost every book written by Paulo Coelho, so it’s no wonder that I decided to follow his tweets to see what other parsimonious offerings he had to share.
A few days ago, I was rewarded with a line that could only come from someone so self-aware;
“What someone else thinks of you is none of your business.” I stared at the words for a moment but they stayed with me much longer; days in fact.
The thought was both illuminating and liberating. I was now free to worry less about what others thought of me. I understood the statement as recognition of the fact that the thoughts of others were of their own construct and even when they were about me; they had nothing to do with me. So true!
Still, I thought about my work and the need to make sure that I am clear to the listener and the reader. I knew that my purpose was linked to their ability to understand my thoughts for and about them.
What was I to think then? If what someone else thought of me was not my business, but I was in the business of helping others to think I had a dilemma on my hands.
Then it came to me; don’t worry about what others think of you, be concerned with what you think of yourself.
As I continued with this wonderful philosophical exercise, I could hear my own mind in the background; “Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,” it said mocking.
I laughed at myself and decided to spend more time with my own business; what I think, feel, and see in myself.

Then I heard the familiar voice in my head as it said, “Now, you’re talking.”
Be you, be well, be wonderful.
Bertice Berry, PhD.



  1. Well said, Bertice... I totally agree and posted this statement, "It's none of my Business what other think of me" in our Breakroom at work!
    This is the best line ever to fully describe HOW we can detach ourselves from the outcome. Very empowering words indeed!
    Thank you for your words of wisdom,
    Ashley in San Diego

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