I’ve been
wearing my hair in dreadlocks for more than 30 years. Twenty years ago, when I was doing a day time
talk show the network’s executives “asked” me to cut my locks off, saying that
if I did the show would be renewed and I would get my huge signing bonus. I decided that if not being me was valuable
to someone else, than being myself should be invaluable to me.
Lately, I’ve been having migraine headaches and my long flowing locks have felt
like an extra weight. After exercising, I like to stand under the shower, letting
the water run through my hair, but lately, even that has been painful.
Over the
years I have heard from folks who all say that I have inspired them to be their
natural self. I have had the surprise of reading my name in books and articles
about hair and image trend setters.
When we are
true to ourselves, we inspire others to do the same. So a few days ago, when I
woke up to another migraine, I wanted to chop my hair off. I was in a hotel and
my travel scissors were way too small for the job. So I said a prayer, did meditation, exercised
and ran cold water through my hair.
When I got
into the session that I was attending with Carolinas Healthcare System, I saw a
room full of beautiful people. They were all there to learn more about diversity
and inclusion with the latter being more about them including themselves and
their unique abilities. My eyes saw one
beautiful being after another and my spirit felt them all at the same time.
Just behind
the table where I was seated, was a woman whose hair was cut so close to her
head, that you could barely see hair at all. She smiled and I thought I saw my
own reflection.
During the
break I grabbed my phone and made two calls; one to my sister Christine and one
to my hairdresser. I told my sister that I was going to cut my hair off. She
laughed and said that just before answering the phone, she had teased my
daughter about wanting to take her thick hair to make a coat. We laughed and
she said that it may help with the migraines.
When I
called the beautiful women whom I call, miracle workers at Piera’s Salon, they
laughed and said, yeah we’ll cut your hair; NOT. They made the appointment
thinking that I was joking. But that night, I was so excited I couldn’t sleep.
I cut my
locks off the same way I decided to grow them, I just did it. I had no idea
what I would get. I had never worn my hair short but have always worn it
natural.
I was
wonderfully surprised by a beautifully round head and my sister told me that
when we were babies, our mom would not leave us lying flat and would lovingly
caress and “shape” our heads. I don’t know if there is any merit to the whole
shaping thing, but I am so grateful for this wonderful roundness.
This morning
when I woke up and ran my hand over my head, I felt revived and renewed.
Lots of
lessons, here are a few to ponder:
·
Who
inspires you and who do you inspire?
·
What
are you holding onto and why?
·
Without
letting go of you, what can you let go of?
“I am not my hair, I am not my skin. I am the soul that lives
within.” India Ire
Be you be well, be Spirit
Bertice Berry, PhD.
Eddy, The Miracle Worker from Piera's Salon |
Simone, my inspiration from CHS |
You look gorgeous! Now there's nothing to distract from your beautiful smile.
ReplyDeleteVery nice. I hope that it helps with the migraines.
ReplyDeletePowerful, Radiant, Beautiful & Naturally you, as always!
ReplyDelete- Sherehe
Yeah!!!! You look AMAZING.
ReplyDeleteI feel honored that I was honored to hear you speak at the CHS conference as you were so inspiring but I also feel I that we were the last to see you before you transformation. I did the same Memorial weekend 2008 and have never looked back. It has been a freeing journey and I hope for you it will be the same, physically, mentally and spiritually!! God bless you and your family!
ReplyDeleteYou look beautiful Bertice! I love your round head.
ReplyDeleteYou look more than beautiful with your new hair choice. THANK YOU for giving so much to Carolinas Healthcare System Diversity Conference. I hope that God continues to bless you and your family...and please, come back to Charlotte and CHS at any time.
ReplyDeleteWOW!!! How interesting that I saw the same CHS employee (Simone) with the bald head and thought to myself that I wish I had the confidence to be that free publicly! She's so beautiful. I've privately worn my hair that same way (very short and almost bald) for the past 12 years. It looks good on you too!
ReplyDeleteA few weeks ago, I got rid of the wig and with my natural hair. Needless to say, I got lots of stares and one person told me I looked beautiful. I was so self-conscious with all the looks I was getting, I called my sister and said I needed to talk to her. I asked her if there was something wrong with my look and she said to me "I needed to break the chains and stop being in bondage to my hair and what other people thought of me." She also quoted the words from India Arie's song - I An Not My Hair. My hair is beautiful and so was I. Thank you Dr. Berry for posting your picture and for your words of encouragement at the CHS Symposium - you look beautiful darling!!
ReplyDeleteDr. Berry
ReplyDeleteYou have developed into a more beautiful, mature, loving woman. I remember your strong and beautiful spirit many years ago. Continued Blessings my Beloved. You are Amazing.
De'Lise Temple