Not me nor my daughter, but it sure made me smile |
What About The Children?
I’ve told you that I will not use
this space to preach at you and today I’m working hard to remain true to that
statement, but I’m about to step up on a soap box.
Yesterday,
many of you hung out with friends, barbequed, or laid back and watched the
entire series of No Kitchen Required. (Okay, maybe that was just me.)
You ate and snacked throughout the
long weekend telling yourself that you deserved it and now you feel bloated,
guilty and have decided to put yourself down.
Well, now it’s
time for my soapbox; stop it with the
poor pitiful me routine. I actually did well at the gatherings and
snack-ins. I did not stray from eating right or from giving my body what it
needed, but because I spent a day doing almost
nothing (I did my laundry and worked on my book,) I felt like I was somehow
cheating on life.
The moment I started to berate myself for my “laziness”
an amazing thing happened and I hope you get this connection; the moment I
decided to feel like I should be doing more, my daughter came in to my room and
asked me to braid her hair. Like me, she has worn dreadlocks for most of her
life and has not had a need for a comb. So when I saw the little comb in her
hand and heard her request, I knew that it was an opportunity for me to get up
and live.
Those of us who are hard on ourselves
have a tendency to be too hard. We get upset about what we have not done and should have
done better. I am here to tell you that you
have the opportunity to pass on your hopes, wishes and dreams to a young person
who needs even more attention than you do.
Stop worrying and whining about how
you look, feel, or what you don’t have and recognize that whatever condition you are in,
there are young folks who are just starting out on the path that we have
already been on. They need direction and guidance.
As I braided
my daughter’s hair, I recalled that my mother had little time to do the same for
me and my sisters. I don’t even know if she could braid. She gave me what she
had and was able to give and I have the opportunity to add to what she knew for
the generation that follows.
My daughter
and I laughed about life and the time I gave her and her siblings matching dashikis.
(What was I thinking?) We talked
about her love of The Rocky Horror Picture Show and I told her about the first
time I was taken to see it with college friends who dressed the parts. She told
me that she discovered how cool I was when she found and re-watched movies she
didn’t get when she was younger.
My daughter's hair is really short, so I told her the
braids will come out. She smile and said “That’s good, because we can do this
again.”
I know that this is a wellness blog
and many of you joined in because you want to lose weight; well I want you to
put aside all of the weight and worry that has slowed you down.
Today, find a young person who has been
asking for advice and give them some. Share what you know and are learning. Instead of talking
about how full and miserable you feel, talk about how full your life is.
I love you and am so
grateful that you are willing to pay attention to this “little” sermon.
Be you, be well, be a
teacher.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
Bertrice, I feel that each person has a different expertise depending on who they are and what they love. I always turn to my mom on cooking and baking, she is awesome at it and she gives excellent advice. I realized that I am sharing my knowledge with a new runner tomorrow. I ran my first half marathon at the age of 13, and have completed eight marathon and completed many other races. Anyways, I forgot about the pre-race excitement and cannot wait to share it with her tomorrow! Tonight I got a text from her that said I am so frickin excited, coach! Whoa, I never thought of myself as a coach I just wanted to push my friend to run a race! I am now 25 and do not have children but I still get to share my knowledge with others! Hopefully I will be a good buddy to run with!
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