Stay in the Light |
Miserable People and Why
They Affect Us
We all know or work with someone who
is; how can I put this delicately; down-right miserable. No matter what you do for, to or
with them; they will still be miserable.
I’m not
talking about a person who is down on their luck, or coming out of a difficult
time; I’m talking about those folks who
have made miserable their personality type. Nothing anyone says or does can
make them less miserable. When things are going well, miserable people are no
less miserable; in fact, when things are right, they seem to find even more to
be upset with.
Miserable
people are not the majority; they are rather rare, but their impact affects
everyone they encounter. So much so that when the miserable person does not
show up for work, everything flows so much better.
However, the
miserable person rarely takes time off; which is why they have been on the job so long. They will work when no one else will, but they wake up and move about with that
cloud over their head determined to make everyone else’s life miserable as
well.
The real question is not why
miserable people are miserable, because we can only change our own self. The
real question is how and why we allow their mastery of misery to affect our
work and purpose.
Here’s what
I have observed:
n Miserable people don’t really want to be miserable; they prefer to be
around people who are joyous. Like everyone else, they too are attracted to the light. But
they can’t stand that person who seems to rise above whatever is going on. They
are envious of anyone who can be happy even when things are tough; so they will
use any challenging situation to make you see and think the way they do.
n Happy people often feel that it is their mission to enlighten the
miserable person. While this is noble, it is also dangerous. I believe that it is your goal to
help those who seek joy as well. The miserable person will be impacted by the
joy of the whole but will see the
brightest light as a threat and therefore seek to “take them out.”
n When I encounter someone who is determined
to be down on life I share my light but I
am very cautious about being pulled into their attacks so I leave them to their
own misery.
This may
sound a little cruel, but if you know someone who is bent on being miserable
when nothing is happening to them, life is beautiful even mean Joe Green is
sharing the Coke (Okay, I know I just dated myself,) then you already know that
the goal of the miserable person is to
make everyone else miserable as well.
Raise your energy and your light and
dance with those who can hear the music.
A negative vibration
cannot dwell with one that is joyous; it will change or it will leave.
Be you, be well, be
LIGHT
Bertice Berry, PhD.
You're so right, Bertice! Howcome there really is a miserable person in our environments, especially at work? We all know that special person who is somehow tolerated in the organization. Thank you for the wonderful steps on how to discern... who to hang out with and share our light with. So, that we may shine our light brightly and not be dimmed by those who are determined to extinguish it! Love to all those who shine their light with purpose and truth, Ashley
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