Yesterday, I witnessed a real miracle. It wasn’t the Song of Bernadette kind but it was right up there. I’m still feeling the effects of it as I write. I’m on my last day At NTI for the American Association of Critical Care Nurses.
Critical Care nurses are the closest thing we have to angels walking among us. Critical care nurses are there when a person dies and present when a critical patient miraculously pulls through. They know more than they reveal and have seen more than even they can believe.
Yesterday, in a session I led on Becoming the Highest Version of Yourself, we learned, laughed and then shared painful stories. I believe that when a painful story is told out loud, it sets someone free; usually the listener but always the teller.
We all paired up and shared or listened to another to get the lesson we needed. Afterwards, I asked if anyone wanted to share with the entire group. (Don’t try this on your own boys and girls.)
A beautiful woman shared a story that she had never told. The woman was in charge of her department and capable of being professional and caring of others; but for years, she hadn’t been able to forgive herself.
She had held on to her pain for more than 20 years. Boldly and lovingly, she shared with the hundreds of nurses gathered there. When she shared, the room was silent and in tears. When I asked for the lessons that could be learned people immediately began to shout out what they themselves needed to be reminded of.
To take care of themselves; to love, to put their families before work, to let go of guilt, to hold no blame, to see our own angels, to cry, to hug, to let go and to heal.
Afterwards, no less than 10 people shared with me that her story was their story too.
This is the miracle; that we are never alone in our pain; and that when we share and release our pain, we enable others to be free as well.
As I was walking back to my room, a man ran up to tell me that he was at the conference with his wife and that she told him he needed to come to the session. He said he had to leave a little early because he was about to break out in one of those ugly cries, but he wanted me to know that he had been set free.
Miracles happen every day. Sometimes they are physical, but sometimes they happen at the soul level. When you release and get well, you can become the catalyst to help set others free.
Be you, be well, Be the miracle.
Bertice Berry, PhD.