Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Day 206; Outlook and Outcomes

Outlook and Outcomes

Do you feel that things are happening to you or do they happen for you?
If you think things are always happening to you, then they are. Your outlook, or the way you see the world inside and around you will always affect your outcome.
I know people who are constantly waiting for the proverbial other shoe to drop and when it does, they get to be right.
Being happy is much more fun than being right.
Changing your world view from gloom to sunshine is not an easy thing. In the beginning of the year, I wrote about how my sister Chris pointed out that on an overcast day, you can see the colors of everything more clearly. I looked out the window and saw that what she said was true and now I can no longer see gloom in a cloudy day.
Take a moment to think about something that didn’t go your way. Now think about what you have been able to do as a result. I hope you can see that this happened for you, not to you.
When we feel that everything is bad and nothing can go our way, that’s what we get.
Don’t get me wrong, I am an optimistic but I am also a realist. I know that I have to work to create the results I want to see.
I know that if I don’t make my life better, it won’t be.
Here’s the thing; what you see as wrong with you is what you will see as wrong in others. What you see right is how you view the world. You can minimize the problems by maximizing your own solutions.
What do you like about you?
Make a list. Make it long.
 Allow it to get bigger every day.
Begin to see yourself as wonderful and worthy of the love you want and deserve.
Visualization is the rehearsal while your action is the performance. Life is not one thing or the other; it is everything and what you take from life’s buffet (with a big sneeze guard) is up to you.

Be you, be well, be the brighter day
Bertice Berry, PhD.


  1. Hi Bertice,

    "I'd rather be happy than be right" has been one of my mantras for a while now. I do think we can always find the proof of our beliefs, whether they're optimistic or despondent. I can be convinced that existence is hopeless and gather all the "evidence" I need to confirm that; or, I can believe the world is filled with love and opportunity and then doors open up. It's so much a matter of focus.

  2. This is wonderful. I am a pessimistic realist...I need a list of gratitude quick, fast and in a hurry. Right on time...