The Cure for Wanting
What Someone Else Has
Most nights,
I go to bed with an idea of what I will write about the next day. But some
nights, like last night, I am too tired to think. So this morning, I allowed
the first thought that came to mind to be the one to delve into.
I had been
thinking of one of my relatives. She gets any disease or illness that anyone
else has. If you have a cold she catches one. If you fall and break something;
you’ll soon see a brace on her arm too.
If it wasn’t
so sad, it could be funny since she makes her own braces. Her situation is
extreme but the condition is rather common.
We have all wished for something that
someone else has.
Usually, it’s not an illness or injury. We want the talents, abilities and attributes
of others. We yearn for what looks like a leisurely life or an easily earned income.
We want someone’s loving spouse or at least one who will love us the same way.
With the exception of my relative who
catches everyone else’s flu, most people want the good that others experience,
but they don’t want the work that was required to have it.
We want the outcome without the work,
when in truth you can have whatever you want; but you have to take everything
that comes with it.
Most
musicians would love the fame and fortune of Michael Jackson, but none would
want the outcome. I would love to have
the body of an athlete, but that would require the discipline and work of one
as well. It would require that I stop doing everything else I do to focus
only on being an athlete. There is nothing natural, or purely genetic about the
outcome of hard work.
You can have
what an athlete has, but you have to be willing to do the work.
I have found a cure for wanting what
someone else has and it is simple;
Love what you have been given.
Take care of
your attributes, talents and traits. Love yourself so much that your desire to
have a big chest becomes your ability to adore your own big behind. (A little
personal, but that one really works; so much so, that big butts are now the
rage.)
Love your life, your children, your
job, your community and the world you live in.
Love them so much that
all you can do is make them better.
Be you, be well, be better
Bertice Berry, PhD.
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