The Cure for Wanting What Someone Else Has
Most nights, I go to bed with an idea of what I will write about the next day. But some nights, like last night, I am too tired to think. So this morning, I allowed the first thought that came to mind to be the one to delve into.
I had been thinking of one of my relatives. She gets any disease or illness that anyone else has. If you have a cold she catches one. If you fall and break something; you’ll soon see a brace on her arm too.
If it wasn’t so sad, it could be funny since she makes her own braces. Her situation is extreme but the condition is rather common.
We have all wished for something that someone else has. Usually, it’s not an illness or injury. We want the talents, abilities and attributes of others. We yearn for what looks like a leisurely life or an easily earned income. We want someone’s loving spouse or at least one who will love us the same way.
With the exception of my relative who catches everyone else’s flu, most people want the good that others experience, but they don’t want the work that was required to have it.
We want the outcome without the work, when in truth you can have whatever you want; but you have to take everything that comes with it.
Most musicians would love the fame and fortune of Michael Jackson, but none would want the outcome. I would love to have the body of an athlete, but that would require the discipline and work of one as well. It would require that I stop doing everything else I do to focus only on being an athlete. There is nothing natural, or purely genetic about the outcome of hard work.
You can have what an athlete has, but you have to be willing to do the work.
I have found a cure for wanting what someone else has and it is simple;
Love what you have been given.
Take care of your attributes, talents and traits. Love yourself so much that your desire to have a big chest becomes your ability to adore your own big behind. (A little personal, but that one really works; so much so, that big butts are now the rage.)
Love your life, your children, your job, your community and the world you live in.
Love them so much that all you can do is make them better.
Be you, be well, be better
Bertice Berry, PhD.