Trying to Steal My Joy
When I was a
kid and heard my mother talking about someone trying to steal her joy, I really
wondered how someone could take what you could not see.
Now that I’m “old enough to know better,” I
actually do.
We have all
experienced those moments of complete joy. For me, joyful moments can be as
simple as having all of my laundry clean or finding my last hair band when I
thought I had lost it. Sometimes though, the joy-filled moments are almost
miraculous like the time I had to catch a connecting flight but the
originating one had been delayed. I was landing in Atlanta which usually means
a 30 minute trek to another terminal; so when I got off of the delayed plane
and found out that my connecting flight was just next door, I felt the joy.
Sometimes
that joy happens when I plan to do nothing and I am able to do just that.
Sometimes, I see a child laughing or hear my own child singing, or another
playing his guitar.
Joyful moments enable us to see that
all things are connected and it really is all
good. Joyful moments are harmonious.
Whenever my
mother spoke of the stealing of her joy, she was referring to someone who came
crashing into the sound of peace. This
person was being loud, obnoxious, but most often negative.
My mother
often shared a story about how one day when she was walking home from work she
had asked God, which she called Love, how she would feed her children. She had
run out of money and pay day was several days off. She recalled that as she
asked the question, she looked down and found $20.
Twenty may
not seem like much but it was the 60’s and my mother could make a dollar
holler.
As we ate
dinner that night, my mother was exuberant. She said that this was surely a
sign that our lives would be good if not great.
My brother
mumbled something that he had picked up from a street corner philosopher; “The
man is never going to let us get ahead.” My mother was as she would say “fit to
be tied.”
“Don’t go
trying to steal my joy.” She yelled. “Life is hard, but it’s also what you make
it,” she declared.
“If you can’t
enjoy the good, how in the world will you make it through the bad.”
I have come
to understand her words and the emotion behind them.
I have seen the joy stealers and have
felt the sadness and disappointment they carry; but even worse, there have been
times when I have doused the flames of my own joy.
Here is one single tip for dealing
with those who would steal your joy:
Be uplifted, and expectant
of nothing but infinite good.
Be you, be well, be the
joy
Bertice Berry, PhD.
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