My Soul to Keep
Lately, I’ve
been writing about the mind and the body, today I’d like to talk about the
soul. If you have a difficult time with words like soul or spirit then think in
terms of the psycho-social self.
Just as a reminder, you do not have a soul; you are a soul; you
have a body. The
soul is the life force or energy that we are and the way we connect to others.
We need
these connections for our very existence. That all-powerful research shows that
if a child does not have the connections they need while developing they will not
grow and mature in a healthy way. The detachment syndrome is a result of the
lack of touch, holding and affection that every child needs. Without the
connections, the child cannot learn to connect.
Your soul/spirit/psycho-social self needs
to connect, reflect and shine.
We all have
had an experience when we meet someone for the first time that seems very
familiar to us. We call these soul mates, or soul connections. A soul
connection happens when you meet someone with whom it is easy to share your
light and energy. You open up about yourself with no fear or worry. You feel
that the person “gets you” and you them.
I experience
this quite frequently. I can be sitting in an airport in a section where no one
else is. There’s no flight leaving from the gate and I can have the section to
myself but within minutes people begin to come and sit very close to me. When I
was younger, I would get upset and wonder why these folks could not just go
somewhere else. There were plenty seats, but they chose to sit right next to
me.
One day, I complained about this to
my mother and she just smiled. “There are some spirits that are very attractive to
others; you must be one of them,” she said. “Learn to act like you are.”
I had no
idea what she meant. Years later when I read the book The Alchemist, I saw in one of the characters what my mother was
talking about. The author Paulo Coelho and my mother were talking about the
same thing. In the book the young shepherd goes to a store that is empty and
then moments later it is filled with people. I have this experience quite often.
People will come up to me to ask my opinion or just begin to talk.
On a plane,
I like to get some reading in, but people will open up about their entire life.
They will laugh and cry on a 38 minute flight and then when the plane lands,
they apologize and tell me that they never like to talk on a plane to a
stranger, but they just felt that they could.
These connections can happen in an
instant with a complete stranger, while people we know can know nothing of us.
Today, I’d like you give deliberate
thought to your soul. Why do you open to some and not others? What is it about
the person you can connect with that makes your soul sing?
As you go
through the day, pay attention to the people who come across your path. What is
it that they desire from you? Does your light shine so brightly that others
feel attracted to you?
I know, I’m
asking a lot of questions. I want you to do the soul work; to look closely at
the way you shine your light and how you receive the light you need.
When you are
having a conversation, really pay attention. Actually listen to what is being
said before you even begin to think about what you are going to say. Reflect
your light and energy on the speaker until you feel compelled to share your
ideas.
Okay, I know
I’m going deep, but how can you talk about the soul without doing so?
Your soul plays a greater role in
your total well-being than you can even begin to imagine.
When you begin to tap into your like force, you will begin to
experience the reality that all things really are possible.
Be you, be well, be the
light.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
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