What You Can Control
The weather has been all over the place lately, and so have the weather watchers. Weather watchers are those people who are constantly complaining about the weather. When it’s cold they are complaining and when it warms up they do the same thing.
These are the same folks who stay glued to the weather channel so they can report what the day will be like. I used to think it was just us old folks who did this, but I’m starting to see it with young folks too. “It’s going to rain around 3:00,” a youngster told me. “Okay, I said, I’ll watch out for that.” I said. I like the surprise of a rain shower in the middle of the day even when I get caught in one. I lived in Southern California for years and rarely got rain. Now when the rain pours over Savannah I know that the foliage will be neon-green the next day.
I think people like being able to predict what will happen, so they tell you what the meteorologist told them. When it comes to complaining about the weather, people often want to be able to find fault in anything other than their own self. (I’ll leave that hanging here for you to ponder.)
Here’s what I know for certain, I can’t control the weather (well, that’s not completely true, but Al Gore already covered that and we didn’t listen to him either.) I can control my behavior, emotions, reactions and responses. I am not in charge of the economic climate, but I can control my spending and I can work harder even if it pays less.
What we can control is always up to us and what is up to us is in our control.
I can’t change the weather but I can change the way I respond to rain.
Today pay attention to the following:
· What do you complain about?
· Whose complaints do you join in with?
· What can you do instead of complaining?
· What can you control?
Once you begin to identify the things that you mindlessly get annoyed by, you will be more mindful and consequently more in control.
Easy lesson to read, but it’s much harder to apply.
Have fun today and enjoy this High Holiday weekend.
Be you, Be well, Be in Control
Bertice Berry, PhD.