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| Life is in the balance |
To The Needy Not the
Greedy
When I was a
kid growing up we always had water with our meals, but there were those rare occasions when we got to have iced tea or
juice instead. When we did, we would play the game of needy or greedy.
This was
one of the many made-up games my siblings and I played. In this game, someone would
ask for a little of your juice and you got to determine if that person was
needy or greedy. We would ask a series of questions like, “Did you help me with
my homework” or “did you share with anyone last week.” If the person said yes,
then they were just in need, but if you knew the answers were no, then they
were one of the greedy and would be turned down.
I have been
thinking of this game lately; because so many people are truly in need; but
then right there next to them are the greedy.
There seems to be an inverse
relationship between how demanding a person is and their willingness to give.
The more demands they have; the less giving they are. Conversely, the more
giving a person is, the fewer demands they make.
We all know
someone who only calls you when they want something; the interesting thing is; when you go to
help them, they will tell you how you should do it.
So why am I writing about this in a
wellness and transformation blog? Hold on, because this is going to get real
good; those who are givers are often distracted by takers. It fulfills a giver
to give; but when you stray away from your path to attend to the needs of
others, you are not taking care of yourself.
This is a
difficult lesson for a person who is inclined to give, but it is one that must
be learned.
Life is about
balance and we must learn to give and receive. Those who are givers will give
until they have nothing left and those who are takers will take until you have
nothing left. I hope you see the issue here.
Be balanced and aware
that you deserve to be loved, cared for and nurtured in return.
Be you, be well, be
balanced.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
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