I Want You To Want Me: The Need To Be Accepted
Trying to be more like her. |
My youngest
daughter is what the old folks would have called a “Natural-Born-Leader,” and
yet when she was a teenager, struggling to find herself, she had the nickname
Tofu, because she took on the flavor of whatever she was next to.
If one of
her friends was into heavy metal music, she was into it too. If they liked
techno; she did. One day, I came home to a country vampire with a slightly
German accent.
In her
desire to be accepted by her friends, she took on the flavor, and spice of
their life.
Fortunately,
my daughter is now her own amazing version of herself, but many adults continue
in what I call Tofu behavior.
When you don’t
know who you are, you will reflect, become and desire the mood of whatever room
you are in.
This is
problematic on many levels, but for time and energy sake, I’ll focus on two.
Trying to be someone else takes more
energy than lifting heavy weights and running with them.
Not being your authentic self, robs your
community and the world of what it truly needs from you.
Ask yourself
the following:
Are you
truly being you?
Whose life
have you plagiarized?
What unique
aspect of you does the world need from you today?
Be you, be wonderful,
be YOU.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
Great message!
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