Closing the Gap
Between the ME and the I/WE
Hey Grandma, Look at ME |
Okay boys
and girls, put on your hip waders, because we’re going out in the deep.
We all,
every one of us, have a lot of growing up to do. Our individualism has gotten
out of hand and we have forgotten that we are connected to one another and to
everything.
There is no
space between us and yet, we’d like to believe that we are our own self-made
island in the middle of me and nothing and no one can touch us.
The self is
social, we are a product of everyone and everything we’ve ever come in contact
with.
The way we
interact and evolve has an impact on the happenings and everyday world we see.
If we are to
ever live as One, then we must all become one with our own self.
We have to
grow up.
In a model I’ve
created for self-evolution, there are several stages of growth. In this space,
I will discuss two of them; The Me and the I/WE.
We are all
born into the Me stage. Everything is or should be about you. You can’t do for
yourself and so you must rely upon the love, care, nurturing and kindness of
others. Someone must bathe, feed, clothe and hold you. The last being so
important; it enables us to be more human.
The more
love you receive when you are a true Me, the easier you evolve into a mature
You.
Somewhere
around the age of 2; the stage we call Terrible Twos, occurs when a child tries
to hold on to the Me. We often think that a child is striving for independence,
but they are really trying to hold on.
The child wants
to do for their self, and yet they want to be held and carried.
The struggle
between being independent and connected begins this early.
Many adults
are stuck in the Me stage. They want to be held, carried, told what to do and
instructed.
The adult Me is a grown baby with adult-like demands. They throw
tantrums and fits when they don’t get their own way and life forbid if they are
wealthy or powerful.
The powerful
Me uses everyone around them as toys to be played with. Everything is about,
for and belongs to this immature adult. Too often, they are in positions of
authority, because they are as good at manipulating as a crying baby is at
getting you to wake up in the middle of the night.
By now, you
may be thinking of a few folks who are adult Me’s.
But this is
about and for you, and for me as well.
The I/We is
a fully realized adult. They understand the power of I AM. They see their role,
purpose and responsibility in life and they understand their connection to the
rest of the world.
The dance
between the self and the collective is beautiful and balanced and an I/We wouldn’t
have it any other way.
The I/We
understands that we don't just inhabit the universe; it also inhabits us.
We all have
a bit of the Me that needs to grow up.
Look at the
areas of your health, education, family, finances, work and community. How can you be more mature? How can
you care for yourself and others?
The world is waiting
for you to evolve. We need we.
Bertice Berry, PhD.
Great Periscope this morning, DR. Berry. I'm feeling more like an 80 watter now. I never heard of you till 30 minutes ago but I won't forget you @dklord7 ... Don.
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