Is Your Ego Getting in The Way of Your Happiness?
I’m a sociologist, so why am I even using Freudian terms like “ego?” Because like it or not, words like ego and id have become a part of our everyday language.
We don’t always use them correctly. We think that the ego refers to an overgrown sense of self when Freud meant for it to be that part of the mind that helps us navigate the world.
The super-ego must be that overgrown self; but no. It’s that self-critical piece of mind that helps us reflect back the societal norms and standards we’ve picked up along life’s way.
According to Freud, our id is the unconscious, impulsive self that needs to constantly be in check.
So when we feel the need to “give someone a piece of our mind,” which piece are we giving up?
This stuff can get deep---even for a crazy person like me, so without going back to school let’s ask ourselves the following:
Would you rather be right or happy?
Are you holding on to something you need to let go of simply because you don’t want to be wrong in the eyes of another?
Is your id working over time?
Do you argue facts you can google?
Are you using the standards for your life to judge someone else’s?
Don’t look at me---I have to figure these out for myself.
Be you, be well, be happy.
Bertice Berry, PhD.