Does your confidence in yourself fluctuate from high to not-so-much? One day you’re the super woman to all of your colleagues, but the next, you find yourself crying over the simplest of task.
Fluctuating confidence also occurs when you have a great degree of confidence in one area of your life, but very little in another. Oftentimes, the strength of one area could be draining to another. This could be the result of a life changing event, like divorce, or the death of a parent.
A change in life stages can also bring about this fluctuation of confidence.
For some reason, people think that you either have it, or you don’t; but I’m finding that this is just not the case.
Most people who are fully confident in one aspect of work, lack certainty in others.
So what can you do?
Focus on the area of your strength--- right now, focus on it. Actually see it.
Is it consistent, the result of hard work? Is it fun and based in reality; not romanticism? You probably answered yes to all of those questions. Now begin to see the area where you are lacking and ask yourself what the strong area can teach the other.
In the words of Bill Withers, “Sometimes in our lives, we all have pain, we all have sorrow…We all need somebody to lean on.”
Sometimes that somebody is you.
Be you, be well, be strong.
Bertice Berry, PhD