Monday, September 1, 2014

Give Love Away

Give Love Away

About a month ago, I was working with a team of amazing people. We were discussing value sets and the probability of any two people having the same set.

Let’s just say that it would be easier to be struck by lightning while being mauled by a grizzly bear on your vacation in Tahiti while you won the lottery.

We all laughed and marveled at the fact that life could be so rich.

A few days later, I was at a women’s leadership conference. After I had given a speech, a young woman came up and said that she wanted to discuss a project that she was working on.

I took one look at her and thought of my “nephew” Rob. In my mind’s eye, I could see the two together.  

Suddenly, I was a yenta. Now there are two descriptions of the word yenta, probably more. Yenta is a Yiddish word that refers to a busybody; a gossip but in some cases, as in mine, she’s a matchmaker.

I pulled out a picture of Rob and showed it to the young woman and her mother who was also there. “He has soulful eyes,” Cecilia, the mother said.

We both smiled and nodded as if we were twice our age.

In that moment though I realized that I was the age of the women of old who could look at someone and see a good match.

I gave Camille Rob’s number and then let him know that I had.

Long story short, they are a couple, and a really good one at that.

But here’s the thing, what if we were so busy paying attention to life, love and the yearnings of our loved ones that we never had time to worry, complain or feel lonely ourselves.

What if you paid more attention to the light in someone’s eyes and less to the things they do that give offence

What if our observations gave joy to others and our words were the music we all need.

I’m waxing poetic, or maybe it’s just wax, but all I know is the love between Rob and Camille is rare, hard to find and beautiful.

Maybe we need more matchmakers and a lot less gossiping busybodies.

Be you, be well, be the love others need.

Bertice Berry, PhD.



  1. Amazing. Yesterday was my birthday and this "Give Love Away" blog truly uplifted my spirit. What a wonderful present you are Bertice..... to the world.

    1. WHAT????? Happy Birthday, you were one of the brilliant folks I refered to.
      Can't wait to get a copy of your upcoming book Finding The Love You Want and Keeping The Love You Get

  2. Back in 1988 my sister set up a gathering and (purposefully) invited the neighborhood bachelor. She (intentionally) extended an invitation to me, even though it involved flying 400 miles from New Haven to Virginia. That bachelor soon became my husband...and we just celebrated our 25 wedding anniversary.

    1. WOW Annie, that's so cool. Congratulations on 25 years of purposeful love