|Some of my Sunday dinner family|
Most people think that wellness starts with the mind, but I have come to know that it begins in your heart.
Last week, most of us were saddened and angered by the shootings at the church just up the road from me in Charleston, South Carolina. Then the survivors and family members spoke of forgiveness and I was corrected.
I don’t know if I could have said, “I forgive you,” to that young man. I’m having a hard enough time giving forgiveness to the folks I know who say things that are racist.
I’ve grown tired of being angry, but I won't be indifferent and I am only now stepping up to the plate of forgiveness.
Many of my friends don’t fully understand the burden of racism in America and they surely cannot comprehend what it’s doing to them.
I’ve often said that forgiveness is not about letting someone else off of the hook, it’s about getting off the one they put you on.
Forgiving someone is about letting go of the pain and suffering that comes as a result of the injury.
For my own wellness, I will move my focus from the terrorist over to the beautiful folks who could forgive.
You can probably read through my lines to see that I’m not yet up to the task of forgiving that murderer. It’s probably because I see the act of terrorism in a much larger context.
We should be talking about this.
We should be sitting down at dinner tables with the folks you mean when you say, "Some of my best friends are," and you should be discussing how this and other acts of terrorism make you all feel.
We should all be holding our hearts in pain from the indifference we have to our nations indifference.
We should be feeling something.
If your heart is not aching, truly aching, well, I forgive you.
Be you, be well, be forgiven.
Bertice Berry, PhD